"Why are you single, baby?" Reasons for being single based on a Brazilian research

• Authors: Darlane Silva Vieira Andrade , Maria Gabriela Hita

Title variants

PL

"Kochanie, dlaczego jesteś singlem?" Powody pozostawania w stanie wolnym na podstawie badań zrealizowanych w Brazylii

Abstracts

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Pomimo przemian w sferze życia małżeńsko-rodzinnego oraz intymnych relacji osoby samotne nadal często pytane są o powody pozostawania w stanie wolnym. Od dorosłej osoby wciąż oczekuje się, że wyjdzie za mąż/ożeni się. Niniejszy tekst przedstawia rezultaty brazylijskich badań poświęconych problematyce „singielstwa”. Autorki pracy skupiają się zwłaszcza na głównych powodach pozostawania w stanie wolnym przez osoby dorosłe z klasy średniej, zamieszkujące stan Bahia, miasto Salvador. Do analizy omawianego w tekście zjawiska zastosowano perspektywę feministyczną oraz kategorię gender. Zastosowano podejście intersekcjonalne, biorąc pod uwagę zarówno klasę społeczną, rasę, pokolenie, seksualność, jak i miejsce zamieszkania respondentów- -singli. Zastosowano metody mieszane z wykorzystaniem takich technik badawczych jak: kwestionariusz ankiety, zogniskowane wywiady grupowe (FGI), wywiady biograficzne oraz obserwacje terenowe. Wyniki badań pozwoliły na zaobserwowanie różnic i podobieństw w kwestii przyczyn pozostawania singlem między kategoriami płci. W przypadku kobiet główną przyczyną pozostawania w stanie wolnym są problemy w relacjach z innymi (partnerami), natomiast główną przyczyną bycia singlem w przypadku mężczyzn jest dobrowolny wybór takiego stanu.

EN

Single people are often asked about the reasons for non-marriage, in a context where, despite several changes in the field of intimacy, adults are still expected to marry. Based on a thesis study on the subject of singleness in Brazil, in the city of Salvador, Bahia, this text presents the main reasons for singleness, declared by single middle-class adults who live alone in this city. The study used a feminist perspective, with the category gender as the basis for data analysis, in an intersectional way with social class, race, generation, sexuality and territoriality. It used mixed methods with a combination of instruments: questionnaire, focus groups, biographical interviews, and field observations. The findings collaborate to observe gender differences and closeness in reasons for singleness: relational reasons prevailing for women and being single as a choice for men.

Keywords

PL

singielstwo; relacje między płciami; powody bycia singlem

EN

singleness; gender relations; reasons for being single

• Publisher: Uniwersytet Łódzki. Wydawnictwo Uniwersytetu Łódzkiego
• Journal: Acta Universitatis Lodziensis. Folia Sociologica
• Year: 2021
• Issue: 78
• Pages: 79-97

Dates

published

2021

Contributors

author

Darlane Silva Vieira Andrade

• Federal University of Bahia, Philosophy and Human Science Faculty, Department of Gender and Feminism Studies, Estrada de São Lázaro, 197, Federação, 40.210730, Salvador- Ba, Brazil

• https://orcid.org/0000000322521897

author

Maria Gabriela Hita

• Federal University of Bahia, Philosophy and Human Science Faculty, Department of Social Science, Estrada de São Lázaro, 197, Federação, 40.210730, Salvador-Ba, Brazil

• https://orcid.org/0000000258657334

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Identifiers

DOI

10.18778/0208-600X.78.05

Biblioteka Nauki

2027839